For most people, the greatest part of the focused energies they invest into their work is done so to provide a better life for their family. The irony of this is, in most cases, the more we focus on our work and the better we get at it, the further it takes us away from that family that we love so much.
At the height of my time working in the tech industry, I was working close to an 80 hour work week, leaving before first light and returning home after the children were asleep.
Most weeks also saw me traveling over 5200 miles / 8300 kms to serve my clients. My weekends started with a flight arriving in at Melbourne’s Tullamarine Airport about 2 am on a Saturday morning. Most of my Saturday, I was a zombie on autopilot, until the late afternoon and by the time Sunday afternoon arrived, I was already mentally planning my meetings for the week ahead. For years this was a repetitive cycle, that eventually took its toll on my health and our family’s well-being
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But is work the cause of our family problems?
Where are you focusing your priorities?
In the developed world, the ever increasing cost of living is placing in-ordinate amounts of pressure on families, just to make ends meet. It is commonly accepted in most two parent households, that both parents have to work full-time just to survive. One wonders then what pressure single parents have to face in such an economic environment?
However, this situation is not entirely the cause of family problems, rather, it is perhaps just a catalyst. It is however, the complete lack of time that families have chosen to give to each other. Even the little time that is set aside for being together as a family is often filled with the pressures of daily routine, running children to after school activities, sports, music lessons, drama class, etc. Too often this over activity completely saps people of their ability to really be present with their family and this is often where communications break down and misunderstandings can occur. Left unaddressed, they fester over time and can leave an ever widening gap between family members.
With that said, work does indeed put inordinate amounts of pressures on us to perform. Even with many workplaces now providing much greater flexibility for workers than in the past, it is often the choices we make in prioritising the work we choose, which take us in different directions from the ones we love. This too, over time, forms an unbridgeable gap between some family members. Compounding all of this with what we all have faced as humanity since COVID, many families have or are now on the precipice of breaking point, not knowing where to turn or what they can do to reset their balance
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Back in 2008 a dramatic change occurred in my life. I was laid-off from my position at work. Perhaps if this didn’t happen, I might not have noticed just how far my life was diverging from the ones I loved so much. This gift gave us the breathing room to rethink what it was we wanted for our family and how we would live our lives. Our children were 7 years old and we wanted to be together.
We took our children out of school to homeschool them and started a small business that would suit us being together as a family. We struggled financially in the beginning, however, we found a rhythm that was ours. We took long walks together, talked, discovered things about ourselves as a family and we liked what we were learning…how we were growing together as a family. We especially loved that we were experiencing life together.
In 2011, we decided that we would start traveling longer-term. We had already sold our house, our second car, most of our possessions and felt so much lighter from our burdens. We started traveling in our home country of Australia and then we created a non-profit project in 2012 that we took internationally on the road to the US. Right up until the Pandemic, we travelled the world which saw us live, learn and contribute to the cultures, people and communities in 52 countries on 6 continents. We have spent about two weeks apart in last ten years.
I know that today, with everything that has gone on in the world, perhaps travelling around the world is not the first thing on many people’s minds, however, my point is not about this at all. Instead, it is about addressing an underlying concern, even a crisis that many families are facing today and that is How do we take back authority over our lives as a family?
When I first wrote this article back in 2018, my next sentence was - it is not possible and perhaps not even a prospect today for everyone to change their jobs, sell their house, take this children out of school, or travel for that matter. But perhaps, this is exactly what everyone should be considering, or at least questioning today.
Is your job or what you are doing serving your highest needs now? Is your house actually an asset that you are leveraging to produce income, or are you just existing to pay off your mortgage at the behest of the corrupt banking/financial industry? How much time are you spending with your children, not “quality time” but actual time, where you are consciously and coherently relating to each other?
In this post-pandemic era in which we live, where we have all been forced to face the very real prospect of re-examining life and how we are living it, isn’t this the perfect timing to ask and contemplate these harder questions? These are questions that perhaps all families should be asking, because they are the key to unlocking their freedom, taking back full authority over their lives and rewriting their family story!
How in such a world can we make family our focus and take back authority over our lives?
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A renewed sense of direction, curiosity and clarity for what is possible as a family. A drive to re-focus on your journey together and utilise this new energy and momentum to empower yourselves with your own vision of what it means to be at home in the world, in a complete energetic counter to the close-minded and overwhelmingly oppressive barrage of society's fearful narratives.
The wisdom to see why asking challenging questions daily of ourselves, as opposed to seeking answers, will be one of the greatest catalysts for your own personal and familial transformation.
A set of tools and a framework for self-guided practice that you will all want to participate in together, daily in your journey as a family. These are hands-on practices, games and actions that will engage everyone, everyday, long after our time together in the retreat is done.
An awareness of the entanglements, limiting beliefs and incoherence that has weighed you down, shrouding your perception of what you are truly capable of achieving when you work together as a family.
An ongoing community of families, who like yourself, have the courage and fortitude to see this journey through to its fruition.
A budding new coherence, equilibrium and determination within yourself that begins to reflect in every aspect of your relationships, paving connection, catharsis and peace into the road that leads to being at home with yourself, at home with your family and at home in the world.
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14 years ago, we made a conscious choice to embrace change as the catalyst to creating a life lived together in coherence.
This investment and our subsequent adventures have taken us to over 50 countries on 6 continents.
Along our travels, we noticed the ever encroaching harmful ways stress, overwork, overcommitment and societal narratives, were taking families in separate directions and causing harm and disintegration to the health and well-being of families. COVID19 has also demonstrated now more than ever, why families need to seek their own, more viable and cohesive ways of living and working together.
We longed to share with families what we learned. This was how At Home In The World Family Retreats was born, and its very name embodies every aspect of this possibility as a constant in life.
To be at home with yourself is a vital step to being at home with your family, and at home with the world, no matter where you live.
Give your family the freedom to live your life together from the heart.